The Single Boyfriend

"As I type this there's a woman somewhere in the world falling head over heels for a man that at best, could be nothing more to her than a Single Boyfriend. I can only hope that these words reach her before its too late."
                                                                    - Haz
                                                        
                                                           The Single Boyfriend

                                                        "If I say YES, she CAN'T say NO" 

 A single boyfriend is simply an opportunist. He usually only wears the label "boyfriend" because of what that title gets him and the fact that he probably wouldn't get it without it. By nature, most women are in love with love and would rather be with one man, as opposed to most men who desire to be with many women. To make matters worse, society tends to label women who have "casual sex" as HOES which pressures many women into pressuring men into relationships PRIOR to having sex with them. The whole "I'm not fucking any man that's not MY man" logic is created therefore the Single Boyfriend is born. Its not the same as an open relationship because in an open relationship both parties have an agreement to openly interact with other people. That's a relationship truly based off of communication, honesty, and trust. A single boyfriend however, is really just a one sided relationship. In the end he's YOUR boyfriend, but your not HIS girlfriend. Ever been with a guy and felt like nothing really changed after it became "official?" Ever been in a relationship and felt like you weren't really getting anything out of it? No dates, quality time, barely even any phone conversations just texts and sex? Well then chances are you had a Single Boyfriend.

                                           What good is Mr. Right if the time is Wrong?

  Now I was once a Single Boyfriend, I'm almost ashamed to admit it being a man that pride's himself on his complete honesty. See once upon a time there was a girl named Keisha. Keisha was perfect. Fresh off a plane from Jamaica (she definitely wasn't a boat bitch) with an accent almost as thick as she was, I met Keisha and we immediately hit it off. She didn't have the same mentality as most modern American women so being with her was completely different from anything I had experienced before. She'd cook for me, come over and clean MY crib without me even thinking to ask, put me first at all times, RESPECTED me as a man AND the pussy was phenomenal. As I previously stated, Keisha was perfect. I'm actually regretting this the more I write it. To make a long story short Keisha absolutely adored me. She may have loved me a little too much. See the problem was I met Keisha when I was in the middle of what's known as a man's "Player Stage." I wasn't ready to settle down and NO WOMAN was going to change that. I knew Keisha could potentially be my wife one day and knew that WHEN I was ready to commit she was the one I wanted to commit to, but I also knew that then wasn't that time. Keisha was new to the country, in school in pursuit of a law degree and didn't have nor want many friends. She had plenty of family here but wasn't the type to run the streets and was perfectly content with settling down with me and making me her life. In fact it was her main goal. She basically PRESSURED me into being her boyfriend, hitting me with questions like "Am I wasting my time with you?' and 'What are you out there looking for that you don't get from me?" every chance she got. Her questions were justifiable, and in that fucking accent which made coming up with a logical response even more of a challenge. She had my back against the wall and KNOWING she was a good woman I felt I'd be a fool to let her slip away. So I did what every man selfishly does in this situation. I assumed the role of the Single Boyfriend. I was happy keeping her on ice until the time was right but she demanded she be thrown into the Crock Pot as the main course. Timing truly is everything.


                                         Women are the reason that Sex ends with EX.


   Now we could focus on my selfishness but that's not where we'll find the lesson that's to be learned. Women all over the world make the same mistake that Keisha did and the unfortunate part about it is they're usually good women just as Keisha was. You see good women usually know their value and know they deserve to be some man's woman instead of just a woman to some man. Add that to the fact that for women, sex is as much emotional as it is physical (if you can fuck with no emotion congratulations #HeyBoo me after you finish reading this) and that emotional attachment usually equates to an emotional commitment, meaning they would rather "make love to their man" as opposed to just be "fuckin their friend." These factors make women apply pressure to the men they like in an attempt to steer them to the desired destination, A RELATIONSHIP. The problem with "wanting to be in a relationship" is you automatically give the man a cheat sheet with all the answers. If I HAVE to be your boyfriend in order to get the pussy then I can simply just "be your boyfriend" and get the pussy. Your Single Boyfriend of course. See a Single Boyfriend doesn't necessarily mean the man doesn't care for you or have feelings, at best you can hope to get one like I was. A man that cares about you enough to "try" and hope you stick around until he is really ready. Most women aren't this lucky tho and end up being lied to and "cheated on" by men they THINK are their boyfriends but in all actuality they belong to everybody. Some men put up a front better than others and string women along for years and others just last as long as they can while doing the bare minimum. Ask yourself this question about your current boyfriend or most recent relationship. Would he be (have been) your boyfriend if he didn't "HAVE" to be? Think about that for a second. Did he commit to you because he wants to be committed to you or because he wants you to commit to him? In other words he didn't want to share you so he took you off the market thus forcing him to be taken off the market as well. I might not want you fucking other men but that doesn't mean I want to be committed to you at the same time. What's to stop me form being YOUR boyfriend but not really making you MY girlfriend? I once saw an episode of Cheaters where the woman called them and had her boyfriend followed and "exposed" the fact that he was married with a family and she was the actual side chick. This bitch THOUGHT she was his main woman and he actually had a wife and children. Greatest shit I ever saw in my life. The point is I'm sure if he could've just told her the situation and still kept her on the side he would have, but in order to have her around she had to believe she was "the only one." Men tell women what they wanna hear because they WANT TO  HEAR IT. As long as you continue you use the same answers that have been in circulation since day one the test won't be any harder to pass. It's just gonna get easier as time goes on. Don't let society pressure you into pressuring him. "True Monogamy MUST Be Based Off A Decision And Not A Restriction." A man must WANT to be with a woman that's the only way it will work.


 Now lastly I must get on the fellas. Being a Single Boyfriend is basically taking the easy way out. If you CAN'T get her to sleep with you ON YOUR TERMS then you DON'T DESERVE THE PUSSY. Telling a woman you love her, care about her, or that she is the only one in order to get her to sleep with you or be with you exclusively is for the faggots. Be honest with the women you deal with and stop trying to turn the women into hoes and the hoes into women. I was selfish. What I should've done was either man up and tell her the deal or charge her to the game and let her go. It's not fair to hold somebody back until your ready unless they understand your situation and decide to stick around. I'm in a situation with a female friend of mines now that was the inspiration for this post. She doesn't believe in sex without commitment and I respect her for that but I also know that I could wax that ass if I was in the field for a girlfriend and wanted her to be it. We get along and there's a connection but she has her beliefs and so friends we shall remain. Now I could've done like most niggas and played the role of Single Boyfriend, got her to develop feelings for me, use her for sex and then end up breaking her heart leaving her scorned for the next potentially honest man to come along and deal with. The old Haz might have just strung her along like I did with Keisha keeping one foot in and one foot out until I was ready to completely commit but I decided to educate her on the Single Boyfriend theory and even forward this blog to her. We will continue to be friends and she night even gain a new found level of respect for me and let me wax that ass anyway because she CHOOSES to instead of me choosing for her. Who knows, the moral of the story is don't make it easy for a predator to catch its prey and don't force a potentially good man into a bad situation. I'm not gonna go into detail on how to be a Single Boyfriend for the fellas or what to look for for the ladies because that's what the book is for. I appreciate you taking the time to educate yourself. The fact that your reading this shows me your priorities are in the right place. As always, feel free to Follow. 

I Love This Game

 

   Depending on how you look at it Twitter is one big game. Every game has rules. If one hopes to win they must first learn to play by those rules. In order to understand the rules one must first learn the terms of the game they are playing. These are some of the terms and the definitions that go with them when it comes to THE GAME.
 
Air Ball - Any failed attempt to attain the attention, acknowledgement or admiration of the opposite (or sometimes even the same) sex. When you send a tweet out or respond to a tweet with a specific intention behind it and  receive no response you have just put up an Air Ball.

Alley Oop - An offensive play in which a player hand delivers "the ball" (usually a woman) to his/her "teammate" for the score with little to no effort necessary on their part. I won't expose the different techniques in which this is achieved but just know niggas throw alley oops on twitter everyday B.

And One - The phenomenon that occurs when more than one person thinks a tweet is about them. Usually when a man subtweets a woman and the side chick or a random shone believes it's for her.

Assist - A pass to a teammate who scores shortly after with a little work on their part. Where an alley oop is them basically preparing a meal for you an assist would be closer to them giving you a ride to McDonald's. You have the ball now do something with it.

Ball Hog - A player that refuses to pass. In the real world no man is obligated to get another man women but Twitter is a team sport. You can't fuck em all so show love when you can.

Benchwarmer -  A player that sits on the bench for most of if not the entire game. These are the one's that WOULD if they COULD. They may flirt with women on twitter daily but make no progress and mostly just sit and observe the real players play.

Block - To tip or deflect a shooter's shot altering it so it misses the goal. Basically hating or cock blocking another players attempt to score.

Bounce Pass - Passing a follower you've slept with to another one of your followers.

Brick - Similar to an air ball, a brick is when you receive a negative response to your attempt for attention, acknowledgement, or admiration.

Brick Layer - A player whose attempts to score constantly get curved and turned down.

Dribble - The courting process that takes place on twitter. The initial flirting during the "get to know each other" stage.

Double Dribble - The process of courting two friends at the same time on twitter. Usually just light flirting early on in the beginning testing the waters to see which one you should choose. If pulled off unsuspectingly the reward can be great but if caught the violation will cause you a loss of possession.

Dunk -  To score by putting the ball directly through the basket. Basically getting a follower to agree to whatever sexual situation you request with providing complete honesty. Most men's idea form of scoring.

Euro Leauge - White Twitter.

Fade Away - Pretty self explanatory. Ladies when you met that guy and let him hit then the texts and tweets slowed up after, u basically got hit wit the fade away. 

Fast Break - An attempt to score as fast as possible. The typical Follow/DM/Text/Meet/Beat scenario. (See Fast Food reference in "Crock Pot Pimpin'")

Free Throw - An unopposed attempt to score a basket. Usually achieved by either a player backing off and letting their teammate get a shot with no competition, or a player going after a hoe nobody wants. Basically an easy basket .

In-n-Out - A shot that appears to be going in but goes back out. Basically when you put in the ground work with a follower but fail to follow through for whatever reason. There's usually an unspoken agreement that she owes you some pussy.

Jump Shot - Where the dunk is you getting them to sleep with you by being direct and up front the jump shot is the safer yet less honest approach. A man might run game or tell a few lies to align their twitter life with their "real" life in an attempt to score. It appears to be the easy way out because you deal with less defense up front but in the long run the score is less gratifying.

Layup - A close range shot completed with finesse. Where a dunk is direct and may be rejected if forced too hard the layup is a softer smoother approach. Still direct and honest its considered the more gentleman approach to scoring. Besides, everybody can't dunk.

Paint - The land of the DM's. Some go hard in the paint, others shy away and dare to enter it. This is where you will find most of the action.

Pivot - To sleep with the women in your immediate area without leaving the city or state.

Possession - When you have one of your followers "attention." What you do with it is up to you.

Post Up - When a player puts himself in position to receive an assist or alley oop. Sometimes just posting up on the timeline can get you a score.

Prayer - A shot that is thrown up with little chance of going in. Basically the thirst tweets you see from both men AND women.

Rebound - The response to a random tweet that sparks conversation. If they respond you now own possession however in this game a rebound can turn into an Air Ball or a Brick.

Three Pointer - Where the dunk is direct honesty the Three pointer is the exact opposite. It is the ultimate deception to score. Some people create entire personas on twitter and attempt to live them out in person which is so desperate that if they do end up scoring they deserve an extra point. There is usually no shame in their game and it requires a high level of skill but in the end nobody really wanted to be Larry Bird, Reggie Miller or Steve Kerr.

Travel - Pretty self explanatory, to go out of state to meet someone off of twitter. Sex should never be a man's sole purpose to visit another state unless the arrangements are provided for by the woman. Either have the woman come to you or check her when you're in town for business. Can't be traveling all over the court trying to score.



  Now I don't expect to see all of these being used on my timeline but if and when you do use them remember where you got the official definitions from. I can't promise that you will win if you play by the rules but I can promise that the game is and will always be the game. It might not be perfect but it's fair. Be safe and remember when it comes to Twitter they only know what you tell them. Feel free to follow me @Haztv

The Bad Bitch vs. The Homely Hoe

Before I begin allow me to say that there are always exceptions to every rule. I only speak generally when addressing a general audience so if the shoe doesn't fit don't hit me up about this blog after you've forced ya foot into the shit. I welcome everybody's opinion on the subject but I am NOT talking about YOU. This is not an attempt to bash women. The terms bitch and hoe are nothing more than words that I choose to use in place of girl and woman. I really ain't shit so try to focus on the message and not the man, but as always a hit hoe gone holla...

Now for the purposes of this discussion I have decided to classify most women in one of two categories. The Bad Bitch or The Homely Hoe. As I stated above Bad Bitch simply sounds better than Bad Girl and Homely Hoe sounds better than Homely Woman, don't trip just vibe with it. This all spawned from a tweet I posted regarding the whole Deion and Pilar Sanders situation. The tweet said "Pilar is a Prime example of what happens when you marry a bad bitch... Thats why you just fuck fine women and settle down with the homely ones that's why its called Settling down. Bad bitches ain't worth shit." Now most people got stuck on my choice of language and laughed it off but if you read between the lines the logic is actually pretty deep. Society awards the Bad Bitch and shuns the Homely Hoe. The ironic part about it however is that in the long run the "Bad Bitch" almost always turns out to be bad for you and the "Homely Hoes" are actually the ones you should take home to mama. Allow me to explain...

                                            A Bad Bitch can't get shit but Haz dick #Hazism


  Now the first yet ironically least important factor in determining a Bad Bitch is looks. I know that might seem odd but a Bad Bitch is really a mentality that has more to do with the way a woman views herself than how others view her. Of course the way others view women plays a big part in how they in turn view themselves so looks are a factor, but if twitter and facebook has taught us anything its that you don't have to be attractive to consider yourself "bad." Society rewards attractive people, it's a shallow fact of life. Men tend to value women based off of their looks so the better a woman looks the higher her "value." Things of higher value tend to receive more than those of lesser value. More time, money, praise, recognition, attention, respect, more everything. The problem here is that as the cliche goes, beauty is only skin deep. Most men are usually visually attracted to a female first then tend to adapt to whatever personality comes along with her while most women (not hoes) tend to go for the personality more and then usually accept whatever looks come with the guy. This is the reason you'll see an attractive woman with an ugly man 10 times for every 1 attractive man you see out with an ugly woman. In fact only hatin' men see and express a problem with beautiful women dating ugly dudes, but when you see a man with a woman society feels is below him on the scale (take Tip and Tiny for example) both men and women tend to wonder exactly what the hell went wrong. It's as if its only "right" that a successful man should have the most beautiful woman possible on his arm. Being rich and having an ugly wife almost makes no sense to most people, its like having a fleet of cars at your disposal and taking the bus. If you can have "better" why wouldn't you? The simple fact of the matter is that niggas like Tip are privy to the game I'm about to present. You fuck and have fun with the Bad Bitch but build your home with the Homely Hoe.

  The second and most important factor in determining a Bad Bitch is her mental state. The type of head she has on her shouders. You see there are plenty of women that work regular jobs and live life like everybody else that just happen to be bad, and then there are the Bad Bitches. These are the women that understand what I stated earlier about life rewarding the attractive so they focus their lives solely on getting by based off of their looks. They understand that value is placed on appearance so they become obsessed with everything visual and in turn lack any real substance. Everything is about the show. They only dress in designer clothing, carry designer handbags and name drop every chance they get. They're always on the scene and attend all of the trendy clubs and social events and give themselves titles such as sociallite and fashionista even though they probably don't work in fashion. They are considered the typical "It Girl." They date men based off of looks, money, and status. They look up to "women" like Kim Kardashian and are more than entertained by shows like The Bad Girls Club and The Real Housewives of Atlanta. They are almost always "famous" on the latest social networking site or at least aim to be. They rarely work a real job and end up doing something that caters to their lifestyle such as modeling, event hosting, promotional work or even stripping since they stay in the clubs anyway. They truly believe they deserve everything they desire simply because of the way they look. Be it God or Man made. They are the least in touch with reality because unfortunately they are allowed to live in their own worlds. From birth many of them have been sheltered from the "Real World" so one really can't place all the blame solely on them. Every man they come in contact with offers them the world if their looks are good enough because the high value men place on them make them go all out in an attempt to get these women. In the end they are still human. They are women, they have feelings and emotions like everybody else. They seek love, affection, and all other forms of human interaction but the emphasis is usually always on fun. Less work more fun. They truly are fun girls, but unfortunately there is a time and place for everything. They long to be a successful man's trophy wife but by the time they land one (if they land one) they have no clue how to be a wife to begin with.


 Now on the other end of the spectrum you have what I call the Homely Hoe's. Now I admit this title really isn't as fair or accurate as the Bad Bitch one is but as most Homely Hoe's should realize by now, life isn't fair. Looks play a minor part again because as I stated previously this is more about the woman's mentality. Obviously if a woman looks homely then chances are she will be more humble and down to earth. Men won't be throwing themselves at her so she naturally won't have a feeling of superiority like most Bad Bitches do, she'll have to get in where she fits in. Now men ain't shit and most of them fuck any and everything so even a sloppy girl can get gassed up enough to believe she's a Bad Bitch which is an unfortunate phenomenon that appears to be occurring more and more these days. Life won't be as rewarding or easy as it will for an attractive Bad Bitch but her true value will be the same as long as the mentality is the same. A Homely Hoe can be and usually is beautiful, if a man knows how to look. If they are attractive they will have been raised with enough values to understand that looks don't last and should never be used to get ahead. She knows they are merely a gift from God for her future husband. Homely Hoe's work and/or go to school. If they do work as one of the jobs I mentioned earlier then its usually a side hustle while they pursue their real career goals. They expect to work for anything they receive (either because they were raised that way or given no choice) and short of courting (dates) they rarely receive handouts. They date men for who they are and not what they are (make no mistake about it looks play a major part in any relationship so they will date who they are attracted to but they will be attracted to them for different reasons). If they do watch the shows I mentioned earlier it's more so of an escape to ignorant entertainment as opposed to the highlight of their week. They laugh at the women in the shows and when the shows end they return to their normal lives. They know the difference between reality TV and reality. They know how to cook and understand their roles in the house and family as the woman and mother. They usually look forward to having children and don't think about the effects they might have on their bodies (not to say they let their bodies go to waste after having children). They read so they're able to INITIATE and maintain a conversation about a variety of different topics. Talking to them is like opening an encyclopedia where a Bad Bitch would be like opening an US Weekly. When/if they go to the club they are usually low key and dress conservatively as opposed to the Bad Bitch who is probably dressed provocatively and standing on a couch. They typically get overlooked by men because men are visually stimulated and these women tend to dress down which makes them blend in and go unnoticed.

  Now as I stated earlier there is a time and a place for everything. I believe that nobody is perfect and everybody serves a purpose. Wise men know to have fun with the Bad Bitches and when they get tired settle down with the Homely Hoe's.You hit VIP and pop bottles with the Bad Bitch but have kids with the Homely Hoe. If your lucky you will find one that could've been a Bad Bitch and in today's world probably even should've taken the easy way out and been one but kept her values and remained grounded. If not then you have to upgrade your game enough to upgrade your Homely Hoe as much as humanly possible. If she lacks fashion sense then take your new queen shopping so you can show her off. Take her big ass to the gym and get on a workout plan together. The problem is that successful men (and men period) desire beautiful women but beautiful women tend to become Bad Bitches. The list of men that have been done in by Bad Bitches is too long to name but the two most recent one's I can think of that are going through it are Kobe Bryant and Deion Sanders. They made the mistake of getting with women that stood out in the club. Women that you look at and expect to be with men of there stature. They should've followed the examples of men like LL Cool J and T.I. Get a woman that will be willing to give you the world because every man on earth isn't already offering it to her. Or better yet a woman that you can offer the world to, because every man that's better off than you isn't already trying to do the same. Life is about balance. Either extreme of the spectrum has it's pro's and con's for different situations just weigh your options and choose wisely. Know that if you get a woman based off looks alone chances are she won't be able to cook at home (rhyme intended). I don't know her from a can of paint but you can just look at Pilar and tell she can't throw down in the kitchen. It's not their fault as I stated earlier. She probably never had to. You get the greatest results on what you spend the most energy and time in. Bad Bitches focus all of their energy on looks which equate to physical attraction which ends in sexual intercourse. In the end all they are really good for is sex. They live shallowly on the surface so they posses no real depth for anything beyond visual and physical gratification. Don't let me change your mind though, what you fuck still don't make me nut. In the end when it all comes down to the type of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with you have to ask yourself, do you want a Bad Bitch or a Homely Hoe? Feel free to follow me @HazTv

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Are You Fuckin' For Funds or Are You Fuckin' For Fun?

By @CataclysmicCoCo 

            I often sit back in shock and awe as I watch women tear each other down in an effort to make themselves look or feel better about their own shortcomings or insecurities. One of THEE most ridiculous debates (for lack of a better word) that comes to mind is the woman that has sex for money or gain VS the woman that has sex for pleasure or intimate desire. On more than one occasion I’ve heard females say “If I’m gonna fuck I might as well get something out of it”, or I’m not a hoe I’m a WHORE hoes don’t get paid.” As if self-proclaimed prostitution makes you an upper enchalant hoe. If you are a SLUT ON SALE, that somehow puts you at the top of the proverbial food chain.

            Now anyone that know me knows that I do not believe in labels of any sort let alone words such as hoe, slut, smut, shone, action, any derogatory names for how people choose to express themselves sexually. I am using them for the context of this piece. As I was Saying….

Sex means something different to different people. If you sleep with 8 dudes for 1,000 dollars each (that’s being generous to a lot of you hoes) and I sleep with 8 dudes that I genuinely had feelings for or was attracted to, how are you better than me? How am I better than you? Maybe I’m not hard up for cash. Maybe my hustle to get money doesn’t require me to be spread eagle. It is as if you are saying if a woman is fuckin’ for fun, she doesn’t deserve to be fuckin’. Maybe you use sex for survival maybe it’s the only hustle someone took time to show you. Maybe you equate your self-worth with what you are able to purchase after some stranger NUTS in your MOUTH not in your HANDS! I don’t know your story like you don’t know mine, and we don’t know the next sister’s.

The Great Shawn Corey Carter put it most eloquently when he said “ You aint no better cuz you don’t be fucking rappers you only fuckin with actors you still getting fucked backwards, unless you fuck a dude on his own merit & not the way he dribble a ball or draw lyrics”

Now the flipside, which I think many of us, would agree on is that BROKE BITCHES SHOULD NOT BE FUCKIN FOR FREE… let me reiterate BROKE BITCHES SHOULD NOT BE FUCKIN FOR FREE!!! Everyone has heard the saying “a wet ass and a dry purse don’t match.” or at least some variation of it. If your rent ain’t paid lights or water pending disconnection, if you drive your car on “E” to mop off and get dug out by some scoundrel and when you leave ya situation has in NO way progressed… at the end of this post please turn ya pussy in at the service desk. There is a 90 day program you must complete to get ya pussy back.

 I said all this to say whether you are using sex as a capitalistic venture or as a series of intimate adventures, we must be wise in our decisions because they can have life long affects on us mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Stop trying to put the next bitch in the hot seat to take the heat off of you and your antics.

Are you Fuckin for Fun or Fuckin For Funds? Doesn’t Matter Just Be Safe at it and Be Great at it!

 Now I know a couple of you are asking “Coco do you fuck for fun or for funds?” I will leave you with this……..

I tell you what you need to know, not what you wanna hear ;)

Love Always,

@CataclysmicCoco 

Keep The Coochie, I'll Have Your Heart

I'm writing this post as a response to a response. The fact that this is about women makes it no coincidence that its already clouded with confusion. About a month ago my homie @PhillyTheBoss posted a blog titled "Excuse me ma'am, That 'Box belongs to me" in which he laid out the rules and regulations (or shall I say restrictions) that pertain to a woman's pussy when dealing with a man. According to the blog a woman's "Box" can either be Owned, Leased, or Rented depending on the type of relationship she has with a man. I strongly suggest you take a moment to read it before you continue.

Before I get on the women I feel its only right I talk to the fellas. Now the terms Own Lease and Rent are all words that signify some form of POSSESSION, usually after some form of PAYMENT has been made.You pay your car off over time and eventually you'll own it and it'll be yours to do whatever you please with, or you pay rent at your apartment and its yours as long as you're making the payments on time. The point is nothing in life is truly free so you can't possibly expect to OWN something without paying for it.With that said a man can't expect to own a woman's pussy, or the exclusive access to it without trusting her to agree to those exclusive terms. Anytime trust is involved in a situation you lack control. Ownership is about control. One of the greatest lessons in life a man can ever learn is "You can't control the hole" #Hazism. Realize that when you put the emphasis on ownership you automatically assign value to the asset. Nobody wants to own something that isn't worth spending money on so when you tell a woman that her box is yours, or ask who the pussy belongs to your really subconsciously putting her pussy in a position of power. Please pardon my P's.

 I'm not done with the men but this is where the women come in at. Earlier this week my homegirl @OMG_ItsBrina decided to write a blog in response to Philly titled Is This Your Pussy?? basically explaining why men don't own shit. If you notice in her blog the entire post is written with a smug sense of confidence and superiority. She speaks with a "What I say goes" type of tone because she is under the illusion that she has "Power." Pussy Power to be exact. The Study of Ahoebics focuses on the modern interactions between men and women on many levels but mainly a social one. When it comes to the modern man and woman we are at war. The roles in society have shifted in some cases and the natural way of things are in many ways no longer "natural." I'm not gonna get too deep I'll save it for the book but in short the problem is the focus is on the Pussy. Men and women both have been socialized to worship it. The problem is men want it and women have it. That automatically puts the woman in a position of power and that's not the natural way things were meant to be.

Woman was put here to be a companion for man. Man was made and shit was cool then God decided that such great work deserved some company so he gave us another great creation, women. This is the reason ALL women have a desire for love and attention. Their main reason for being created was to be with someone so they all have the feeling/desire to need/want somebody. Think about it. Don't blame me ladies blame The Bible, you need a man. I'm not saying that to be on some "you have to submit and do what a man says" or "your my property" type of shit, I'm just simply stating that the natural order is for the man to lead and the woman to follow. A woman naturally is not fit to lead a man. Women are emotionally based, a trait which allows them to be better equipped for their natural roles as the mother or nurturer, while men are logically based which better suits us to go out and conquer the world to provide for our families. Logic before Emotion otherwise you end up with confusion which breeds chaos. You see women naturally adapt and absorb the characteristic traits of the men they interact with. When put in an equal or even a leadership position they still tend to follow a man's lead. Hoes are a perfect example. Regardless of your definition there would be no such thing as a hoe if there was no market for one. It's kinda like supply and demand. Men like hoes and women desire to please men so therefore we have hoes.

The only power women truly have is the power of choice. They have the option to choose WHO they give the pussy to, and that is where the illusion lies.That's why when a man lies and runs game on a woman to get her to sleep with him its as if he isn't playing fair because he doesn't allow her the opportunity to truly choose him based off of who he really is. He is basically stripping her of her power. See the pussy itself is nothing special. True indeed they're in no way shape or form all created equal but none is any more special than the next. They all provide the same functions. Just different means to the same end. The true treasure that a woman possesses is the power of choice. It's what she chooses to do with it that makes it and her special. The problem here is that women are naturally supposed to be lead by men. When left to make serious decisions with no guidance they tend to make the wrong choice because they allow emotions to get the best of them. This brings me back to my point about hoes. If women had so much "pussy power", and men had to be "allowed access" then there would be no such thing as a hoe. Women would simply be exercising their right to choose who they sleep with and why they sleep with them with no negative blow back because its their pussy and under their control right? Who are we to judge how the next person treats there body. Fat people are told to loose weight mostly because of health reasons but if they choose to be big nobody really cares. Nobody cares that this pale ass woman at the Pizza Hut by me refuses to tan. It's her body and if she chooses to be a porcelain princess then its her right so if a woman decides to be a double clutching dick sucker then who are we to judge? As long as she chooses to do so then she is in control of her body and should be free to do so right? Unless of course u feel a hoe is just a woman that lacks control of her body, if so then keep reading.

 Most men bend to a woman's will and put on "the act" until she grants them some pussy. That's the whole "treat" thing that Brina was talking about. You take them out on a few dates, be a gentleman, play the game and when you rack up enough pussy points you get to cash in and get your "reward." This is where men feel they "own the box." Once a man puts his bid in and gets to a certain point he starts to feel the right to exclusivity and arguably rightfully so. It's the kid in the sandbox principle. A kid can have a toy get bored with it and toss it to the side, but as soon as another kid looks at it suddenly he wants it again. A man may not necessarily want to wife you, but that doesn't mean he wants to share you either. No man really wants to share the pussy. Now although this reaction is natural an intelligent mind should be able to realize its not logical. You can't expect a woman to committed to you if you're not committed to her. You also can't expect her to be committed to you just because you choose to be committed to her. Same goes for women. Unless you have both agreed to be in a monogamous situation then neither can expect exclusive rights. However if you ask me in 2011 with all the creatures crawling in peoples crevices any woman that respects herself should have only one sexual partner at a time just as any man that truly respects himself should. You cant fuck em all #Hazism.

Now the reason I've been saying all of this is to answer the question Who does the pussy belong to? As I said the emphasis is on the pussy when you even ask that question so men will always be on the losing side of the battle. Women are in possession of the pussy and possession is nine-tenths of the law as my nigga @Waymoflydenu would say. You can't own, rent, or lease it. At best you can borrow it. Should you choose to value it enough to spend money on it is your decision, but in the end you always have to give it back. Even when your in it you don't own it. Most men aren't educated and equipped with the tools required to correctly please a woman in the first place. You ain't really don't shit when you doing it. Hoes goin gay n buying dildo's in record numbers. You fuckin her but she thinking about how long its gone take you to finish so she can go spend the money you just gave her to get her hair done. And even if you can fuck the dog shit out of her there's always a bigger better dick waiting around the corner and with the emphasis being on pussy she knows she won't have no trouble finding Haz I mean him. What men should be concerned with is the real source of her power. Her ability to choose what she does with the pussy. The woman controls her pussy but who controls her heart? A woman's brain is wired directly to her heart because remember they are emotionally centered. If you control her heart you control her brain. When you focus on the pussy you give her the power to decide on if and when you get anything. It's like your the horse and the coochie is a carrot. These carrot coochie ass women get off on the feeling of power but the wrong power in the wrong hands is potentially dangerous. Look at the state of women today. It's a direct reflection of the state of men, simply because they follow our lead. Women are waiting for us to take control be men and provide direction, and all we do is focus on fucking and give them back the control. Women, although now in a position of power still desire to please men so we end up with all these hoes being hoes. They seek our attention and we reward hoes with our attention so you have what could've been a guided productive woman, now calling herself a model on twitter bragging because her ass is natural. Or you have a bright woman like my girl Brina writing a blog about how she has a side peace because she know's every man has a side peace in the same breath that she says a man is dumb for expecting her to only be with him because he is exclusive with her. They are confused. They need our help. Fellas instead of trying to borrow her body consider borrowing her brain. If you control the heart you control the hoe. Make her only want to be with you. Not because you paid her rent, or because you foolishly asked "whose pussy is this" and she foolishly answered but because she desires nobody else and see's it no other way. We have to step our game up so we can upgrade these hoes into the women they are destined to be. To the women that don't agree shut up and read this again starting from the top. You need us. You can't spell WoMan without the word Man. A woman's period is a monthly reminder of her purpose on earth and her need for a man. It's God's way of reminding them of their role. If a man doesn't fertilize a woman's egg a part of her dies inside and her body rejects it as waste. Every month you are reminded that your wasting time lol. Stop telling yourself that your pussy is special. The only thing that is special is your decision on what to do with it. Exercise your mind and decide how you choose to use it not based on how society says you should but based on how you feel you should. As far as the tools she can use to gain what she wants pussy should be a woman's last resort. In closing a woman controls the pussy but who controls her heart? Focus on what you can control and you shall acquire what you desire. Damn I'm good.

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IS IT YOUR PU$$Y?? (Guest Blog by @OMG_ItsBrina)

I just read a blog by a friend of mines called Sophisticated Ignorance and I just wanted to elaborate on it.

Fellas,
When we are fuckin', and you ask, "Whose pussy is this?" because we are in the moment, we're gonna say "Its Yours". We will tell you anything you want as long as you fuckin' us right lol. Especially if we are just having sex casually. {Meaning no relationship.} Just sex.

Now what happens after that if where the confusion begins. When we told you it was "Yours" during sex, some of y'all actually think it's "Yours" PERIOD! Lmao.
Shame on YOU!


First of all, it should be known from the beginning on what type or relationship and rules you should abide by. Me personally, I will tell a dude str8 up he's not the only one. Because I KNOW that I'm not the only one he's fuckin'. Honestly fellas? Who do you think you're fooling? Every "single" person has a side piece. So before expressing interest in a woman, understand that she has a side piece as well. 

***This is where women get caught up as well. When you express interest in a man and you go pass that point (sex), some of you automatically assume that you're the only one and its "Your Dick" and its NOT! Get out of your feelings, it was just sex***

Feelings.....
Fuck yo feeling! Yeah I said it! 1. When a dude get mad bcuz u fuckin somebody else...
That means he's ONLY fuckin' you and he's mad that he don't have another piece on the side.

2. Please don't think that because you pay a bill, take us out on dates, etc., etc, that we owe you something... We don't owe you anything! If you are doing it because you think you gonna fuck then you a lame ass dude for thinking that and ain't no telling what else you would pay for. If you do it and not expect anything in return then you are definitely in for a treat. (i.e. a home cooked meal and/or sex) or whatever she may seem fit for the situation.

So no matter what your relationship with a woman whether its friends, friends with benefits, slider, shone, side piece, girlfriend, fiance, and/or wife IT IS NOT YOUR PUSSY! Because at the end of the day we are the ones who say "Come Get This Pussy" lmao!   





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Are You Chasing A Dream or Running From Reality??

  How do you know when to give up on certain dreams, goals, and/or relationships? Is quitting always for losers, or does it take a real winner to admit failure and walk away? What do you do when your dream or goal doesn't work out?  How do you measure progress in a relationship to know if the juice is worth the squeeze? At what point in a difficult relationship do you realize that things aren't working or worth the work?

  As negative as these questions may seem I believe they're all important in the growth and development of who we become as intellectual beings. Most people aren't honest with themselves, yet they somehow demand the truth from everybody they come in contact with.I don't wanna get too far off topic but in order to EXPECT the truth you must first learn to ACCEPT the truth. The following questions allow one the opportunity to challenge themselves and give deeper thought to the meaning of the word quit. All dreams cannot be accomplished, it's a statistical fact of life. Many would say that's a negative way to look at things, and even if its true it's also more productive to focus on the positive fact that all things are possible. While its true that all things are possible, the logical brain realizes that most things aren't probable. Emotions blur the ever so present lines that define the truth. In other words your heart will put you in positions and allow you to believe things your brain would've never even considered.

  In order for one to be honest with themselves they have to take all emotions completely out of the picture. You can't possibly admit that you won't be the next Jay Z if you feel in your heart that you are the next Jay Z. No matter what anybody told you saying otherwise it just wouldn't sound logical and you might even consider it hate. "Don't ever let anybody tell you what you can't do" is a famous phrase emotional people say. At some point we all must realize that the things we were told as children don't always work as adults. Not saying they are baseless but my point is spend more time on the ground and less time in the clouds. Everyone cannot be a celebrity or famous. Twitter or facebook may in fact be the closest you get to your 15 mins of fame.You have a better chance of launching your own business than you do of getting on bad girls club or X Factor. Most of you can't sing, dance, rap or act. The majority of you won't make it. Don't look at this as me being negative. That would be you being negative about the situation. Instead take this time to reflect on your life and see where you could focus your attention more productively. Maybe you could stop kissing ass for that promotion your obviously never going to get and spend that energy on opening your own company. Or you can admit defeat and stop putting money into that failing company you started and search for another avenue of revenue. Your not a loser if you lose on your own terms, or if you realize you have more to gain by losing now than continuing to attempt to possibly win in the future. Not saying you should be a quitter. Just simply saying in life you have to evaluate your expectations. At what point is chasing your dreams really just running from reality?

Be sure to tune in this Friday December 3rd at 10pm as we discuss this topic and more on the Chunky Chickz Radio Show on Street Connect Radio 107.1 FM in Miami and via live stream at www.livestream.com/streetconnectradio. Also feel free to call in with any input or comments at 305-755-2437 and follow us on twitter @Empress_CCP & @Haztv